black leather jacketsFeels like just yesterday we said, “happy new year”. When a new year starts, the first couple of months are like trials for some of us. Ha!! You don’t really feel any difference until it hits you in the third or fourth month into the year. I thought I share three goals in my life that I’m working/progressing right now.

*** FITNESS ***

Living a healthy lifestyle has been a consistent journey since last year, but I would be lying if I say I always get it right. There are days that I can’t be bothered to eat healthy. If you’re a foodie like myself then you know the struggle of making the right choices when it comes to diet. Even days when I make a conscious decision to eat healthy, I fail miserably. Having said that, I don’t beat myself about it. I lift myself up and get it together. If yesterday was a big fail, I make sure I get it healthy and right the day after. Well it seems I did something right, because yesterday I got a great news when I went to the hospital for my routine check-up. I have dropped weight from 85kg to 79kg and I couldn’t be more proud.

*** DRIVE ***

If you’re a friend to this blog, then you know that learning how to drive has been a mission since forever. Lol!! I tell myself every year that I will learn and end up not doing it. It is not like I’m comfortable with taking public transport. Please don’t get me wrong, -there’s nothing wrong with using public transport. It is the annoying delays that pisses me off. The last thing you want to be doing on an early winter morning is wait on longggg for a bus. It breaks your spirit. Lol!  So back on the matter, I took some lessons last year, but couldn’t complete it because I quitted my job. A single mother gotta prioritize. Ha!! By the grace of God I’m back to it. I’ve affirmed that this is the year of bringing this goal to fruition. Instead of manual, I’ve decided to switch to automatic which is less hustle. I can’t be bothered with manual to be honest. Wish me luck.

*** MINDSET ***

Lets be honest, it is hard to stay positive all the damn time! Life has a way of knocking you sideways and making one lose hope/confidence sometimes. Someone I listen to a lot is Joyce Meyer. Back in the days almost every sermon I heard from her had something about attitude. While I loved the messages, I never really understood why she always poked that word ‘attitude’. Well I get it now. Hans Selye framed it better when he said,

Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.”

We were not promised a smooth life, but in everything if we’ve the right attitude, we will be stress-free and be victors. This is where I am now. Going through everything and anything with the grace of God and a good attitude.

Are you making any progress in your goals? Do share!making progress

On my #outfitoftheday, this is a casual chic look I wore to run an errand with my son. I got the leather jacket and bag from a collaboration I did with The Broadway Bradford two years ago. The jacket is definitely a piece that I’ll be cherishing for a long time. Both ensemble are from river island and the quality is impeccable. river island

Thanks much for your visits and meaningful comments. Wishing you a lovely weekend.

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Much Love!

Missy May


  1. Gabrielle
    March 9, 2019 / 12:37 am

    Developing a healthy mindset is undoubtedly the most difficult of the challenges; it’s something I’m always trying to improve and work on too! Good luck with learning to drive by the way! 🙂

    aglassofice.com x

  2. jenniferpickering22gmailcom
    March 9, 2019 / 2:43 pm

    Good luck on all of these!! I really need to work on a healthy mindset!


    Effortlessly Sophisticated

  3. polarbearstyle
    March 10, 2019 / 8:44 pm

    I love your cozy outfit and it’s great that you’re making progress in all these areas. I’ve actually made some progress in terms of my mindset as well so I’m quite happy about that.

    Kathrin | Polar Bear Style

    • Missy May
      March 11, 2019 / 8:05 pm

      Good to hear that you’re making progress too Kathrin. Thank you 🙂

  4. Jodie
    March 11, 2019 / 12:14 am

    I try very hard to keep a somewhat positive attitude, but some days are harder than others. My word for the year was spontaneous which is very unlike me. And we are thinking about moving….that’s spontaneous…LOL

    • Missy May
      March 11, 2019 / 8:11 pm

      Oh Jodie, I can relate with you right there. Yes to being spontaneous. Way to go! Lol!!
      Thank you muchas! 🙂

  5. March 11, 2019 / 2:58 am

    Well, I love your attitude today. I agree we can’t be positive all the time. I love your quilted jacket and your outfit of the day. Good luck with learning to drive. I’m sure you will be very good at it. VROOM!

    • Missy May
      March 11, 2019 / 8:12 pm

      Good to hear that dear Elle. Thanks ever so much. Vroom vroom!! Ha!! 🙂

  6. March 11, 2019 / 6:22 am

    Good luck with all your goals and stay motivated 🙂 You look fabulous!

    Lots of love ♥ January Girl

    • Missy May
      March 11, 2019 / 8:12 pm

      Thanks much beautiful and good to hear that. 🙂

    • Missy May
      March 11, 2019 / 8:02 pm

      Most definitely Rena! Thanks much!

  7. March 11, 2019 / 10:30 am

    You will meet all of your goals! You already are – you have such a great mindset. Not beating yourself up over diet mistakes is an amazing feat – we all wish we had that too! I believe you’ll learn how to drive this year too xx


    • Missy May
      March 11, 2019 / 8:13 pm

      Means a lot Quinn. Thanks ever so much for the uplift with you comment. 🙂

    • Missy May
      March 11, 2019 / 8:02 pm

      Thank you Margot and good to hear that. 🙂

  8. sundaydahlias
    March 11, 2019 / 3:40 pm

    I’m trying to get back on fitness as well!! It’s so hard I’ve been feeling so lazy lately, but gotta come out of hibernation mode!


    • Missy May
      March 11, 2019 / 8:01 pm

      Hope you can join the fit gang soon girl. Thank you!

  9. alimackin2013
    March 11, 2019 / 3:54 pm

    Oh I love this head to toe black look balanced out with the color and texture in the bag.

    And staying positive is VERY hard. Yesterday myself and two neighbors (sisters) went out for pedicures and our conversation was pretty grim and the dark future that we saw. I kept wondering what the people around us must have thought. But the economy despite what the media says and who are wrong about everything is not going well. Ageism is a huge problem here as is automation. The one sister who is 51 is working part-time, makes %30 below poverty level and only has gone on one job interview in a year and this is someone with 20 years experience…

    Bearnie Sanders once said that in America people fear old age more then they fear death and he is right. It is hard to stay positive when you live in a country that is so angry, negative, and with a fight or die mentality.

    Allie of

    • Missy May
      March 11, 2019 / 8:28 pm

      Good to hear that Allie. Thanks much! 🙂
      Oh wow what a conversation. It is rather unfortunate isn’t it? And yeah with stories like this, I can definitely understand why it is hard to
      stay positive sometimes. We can only pray and hope for the best.

  10. March 11, 2019 / 7:48 pm

    I’m so proud of you that you’re keeping up with your resolutions! Fitness is definitely something that I want to be able to focus more on once again.


    • Missy May
      March 11, 2019 / 8:00 pm

      Aw Didier, this means a lot. Thanks ever so much. Good to hear that you want to join in. 🙂

  11. March 11, 2019 / 8:23 pm

    Your goals are all very important and useful (I know your difficult in driving, i’ve got the licens but I’m still scared of the traffic): developing a good mindset is a work in progress even for me!
    Good luck on your goals anyway, dear, you seem very detemined: keep on going like this and I bet you’ll get them soon!

    • Missy May
      March 11, 2019 / 8:42 pm

      Thanks ever so much, Silvia. Now you got me scared. Ha!! We can do it gurlll!
      Appreciated and good luck to you too. 🙂

  12. selinasinspiration
    March 12, 2019 / 7:12 am

    I am trying to live a more healthy lifestyle as well but more when it comes to food instead of fitness haha I am so lazy I dunno what to do! I totally get your hassle with driving! I have my licence for years now but I still hate driving the car haha
    ❤ Selina | Selina’s Inspiration

    • Missy May
      March 12, 2019 / 9:10 pm

      You’re doing a great job. When it comes to healthy lifestyle, diet is ninety percent so you’re on the right track. You’re already active in
      your daily activities. Ha!! Thank you for the contribution, Selina. 🙂

  13. March 12, 2019 / 10:46 am

    Your three goals sound really good and I’m keeping my fingers crossed that youre successful 🙂 especially the driving part I can totally understand 😉



    • Missy May
      March 12, 2019 / 9:01 pm

      Thanks ever so much, Tina. Means a lot! 🙂

    • Missy May
      March 12, 2019 / 9:02 pm

      That makes the two of us, Francesca. Good to hear that and thank you.

  14. March 12, 2019 / 12:43 pm

    Girl, you are glowing (your skin is gorgeous!). I love the part about the attitude; the quote is so spot on and I think that, while it is hard, knowing how to control and navigate your thoughts at times can be so beneficial! Hope you’re well xx


    • Missy May
      March 12, 2019 / 9:03 pm

      Aw thanks much Naya. I couldn’t agree more with you. 🙂

  15. March 12, 2019 / 1:59 pm

    Keep at those goals, sister! I know you can do it! Love your positive but realistic mindset. 🙂

    Le Stylo Rouge

    • Missy May
      March 12, 2019 / 8:57 pm

      Thanks much sister and good to hear that. 🙂

  16. March 12, 2019 / 2:56 pm

    These are wonderful personal goals, my beautiful Mavis. Healthy body, healthy mind, and you’re gonna learn to drive! Though, I don’t blame you for putting off the driving. Every time I’m in London, I never know which way to look from all the crazy English drivers! Ha! Just kidding! I highly recommend automatic too. I could never get used to a stick shift. You look absolutely stunning in these shots. Love your coat! Love your handbag! Love your sneakers. A fabulously effortless and chic look which is your signature style!


    • Missy May
      March 12, 2019 / 9:14 pm

      Thanks ever so much my beautiful Lizzy. Lol, I felt the same way when I moved to the UK. Good to hear that you’re here for automatic
      driving too. You know my style too well. Ha!!
      Appreciate ya much my dear friend. 🙂

  17. March 12, 2019 / 7:47 pm

    Great post my Dear and that jacket is TDF. Our attitude always seem to get in the way, Darn it. You have lost weight!! Shut up and C E L E B R A T E. . . .

    • Missy May
      March 12, 2019 / 8:55 pm

      Thanks much auntie and yes, my lip is sealed. Ha!!

  18. March 13, 2019 / 10:08 am

    Oh wow! Happy happy for the progress you are having in those areas.
    Happy driving and hope you continue living a healthy lifestyle and a have a positive mindset.
    Love your coat.


    • Missy May
      March 13, 2019 / 6:49 pm

      Thanks much Ann and good to hear that.

  19. karasclosetblog
    March 13, 2019 / 7:12 pm

    These are all great things to work towards this year! I’m the same with being a foodie and finding it hard to always choose the healthy option. But you have the right mindset with not beating yourself up about it. And I love this casual chic outfit you’re wearing! The leather jacket is lovely. Wishing you all the best with these goals and learning to drive! You’ve got this!

    x Kara | http://karascloset.net

    • Missy May
      March 13, 2019 / 8:07 pm

      Thanks much Kara and good to hear that I’m not alone. Appreciated! 🙂

  20. March 15, 2019 / 11:01 am

    I wish I was doing progressin ftness but I am like eaither feel too tired for it or busy…laziness mah

    • Missy May
      March 15, 2019 / 10:40 pm

      Ha!! Not to worry. Take it one day at a time. Thank you!

  21. March 15, 2019 / 2:43 pm

    There’s so much good in this post. Cheers to you continuing your successes this year with your amazingly positive outfit despite the inevitable setbacks life is bound to give us…and looking damn good in that outfit!

    • Missy May
      March 15, 2019 / 10:38 pm

      Thanks much Amy! Appreciated much 🙂

  22. March 17, 2019 / 8:34 am

    Joyce Meyer is amazing indeed! She brings so much hope and wisdom. Anyway, cute look dear!

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

    • Missy May
      March 23, 2019 / 11:53 pm

      Thank you Celyn! 🙂

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