In the name of self-care or self-love, have you seen something so nice in a shop and thought to yourself, “I deserve this!”? That thing could be something you’ve wanted for a long time, or something that isn’t really a necessity, but seeing it makes you want it. Right there and then your mind begins to list all the reasons why you deserve that thing, -sometimes the mind is so right that it is hard not to give in. Ha!!

Well I had one of those moments when I walked into a store and saw the Panasonic Oled Televisions. Oh myyyy…what a beauty! Having free time on my hands lately means more self-care moments and with that also comes time to Netflix and chill. Having a big TV is definitely something I’ve been wanting for a while. Don’t get me wrong, what we have is a decent size for just my son and I. Maybe the joy of watching all these nice summer flicks is getting to me. Sometimes watching these on a big screen and advanced television makes it so powerful and the picture is magical.

What does self-care or self-love mean to you? What does it actually mean to care and love yourself?

Too much a times we associate this with only superficial things like getting a pedi, buying that TV (lol!), getting that car, roasting in a sauna, scoring that designer bag, etc. These are all good, but is that really it? What I’ve come to realise is that self-love or care has more to do with the inside (emotional/spiritual). What is the point of getting all the mentioned goodies above if you’re still miserable inside? You’re burning with anger inside because of something someone did to you, resentful, not happy within yourself because of how you look or about your life. This year I wanted to focus more on this department of my life because I realised how sometimes my mood transferred to my son. Little things caused me to snap and that made me feel really shitty inside. That is not the person I am or want to become. Sometimes it isn’t necessarily about what he did, but because of some old numbed feelings that have surfaced. I’m learning to recognise my feelings for what they are and taking responsibility. I know some people who use products like THC vapes to help them manage their mental health, and I’ve read a few guides to these, like this https://observer.com/2021/08/best-delta-8-thc-vape-carts/ over on Observer, to see what’s on the market. While I’m not too sure this is going to be the best option for me, I can totally see why some really like them! self-loveIn the name of self-care and love, I am learning to relax more, be present and take time to nourish myself spiritually and emotionally. One focused area is defining my self worth. When one experiences so much rejection in their life, it can have a bad impact on one’s confidence or self worth. Each day I stand in front of the mirror and say some nice things to myself. It is about learning to see yourself in a different light and not people’s approval or attention. With all that said, I believe it is also about the forgiveness, mindfulness and managing your mental health.

Seen below are my go-to products for my mummy time routine when my son goes to bed. My skin has a mind of its own, but these products certainly helps in keeping it firm and clear.

Have you got any routine of your own? Have you bought anything for yourself in the name of self-love or care?

Would love to hear from you. Happy Weekend!

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Much Love!


Missy May

A special educational need's practitioner and a single mother who believes one can look stylish without breaking the bank.

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  1. As usual interesting! Thanks for the post)

  2. I do have a routine but I fall off the wagon all the time I need to be consistent with it. I’m actually paying down on my first TV and I plan on getting more things little by little to complete my room

    1. We fall off the wagon sometimes Kerona and that is okay. As far as we get back on it, we good. Good to hear that. You’ll get there gradually.
      Thank you for joining in the topic.

  3. I love this topic of self care, i started focusing on caring for myself a lots more and stop worrying about everyone’s and family problems. Self care is very important because life is too short.

    1. Good to hear that Sophie. You’re right about that. Thanks much for joining the conversation.

  4. I know exactly what you mean with using self care as an excuse to treat yourself! I’m definitely trying to have more me time and know my worth etc, great post!
    Soph – https://sophhearts.com x

    1. Good to hear that Sophie. Wonderful!! Thanks much for the contribution.

  5. It’s amazing how this self care can give us the mental health we really need. We aren’t machines. And a little love and care goes a long way!!

    1. I know right! You’re so right Jodie. Thank you for the contribution.

  6. Self love is very important esp in this generation were everything seems so fast and materialistic. You are so right. I will share this post. I love it.
    Besides that relaxation you dey do for Jacuzzi follow for self love jare.

    1. Good to hear that Mel and you’re so right too. Wonderful and thanks much for the contribution. Ha…will do that! 🙂

  7. I agree with you about what self-care/love means. You worked hard for your money – you deserve to feel good about spending on some goods (beside bills – but still). I agree that mood can transfer to others. I know I don’t really want to do much if others around me are feeling down. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

    1. Good to hear that Nancy. Yes why not!? Ha! I couldn’t agree more on that. Thanks much for the contribution to this subject. 🙂

  8. For me it’s making sure I’m rested, well, hydrated, having down time, enjoying Netflix etc. so just the littler things, then I save up for designer purchases. I often wonder if it’s an excuse to validate our want for things, but I do believe we deserve it, I mean why shouldn’t we? There’s no reason not to!

    Raindrops of Sapphire

    1. Good to hear that Lorna. You worked hard for the money so I definitely agree with you spending it on things you love.
      Thanks much for joining in the conversation.

  9. A nice TV is definitely something every netflix lover needs, haha. For acts of self-love, I make sure that I have time to do what I want and these days, it means going to the gym in the mornings, having time to read before bed, and investing in my personal growth. I definitely need to make time for baths though!


    1. Haha…I know right! Oh good to hear that you take time for yourself to do things you love. Thanks much for joining in the conversation. Appreciated Deasy!

  10. Sometimes we are neglecting our self not knowing that the most important person in this world is your self because at the end of the day, only you will be left.

    Much Love,
    Jane | The Bandwagon Chic

    1. Couldn’t agree more Jane. Thanks much for weighing in. Much love!

  11. Oh to me it means taking good care of myself ♥
    Have a nice day.


    1. Good to hear that Ann. Thanks and have a nice day too.

  12. I generally treat myself very well, buying several things that cuddle my inners soul, but the best treatment for my self esteem is my son’s smile. Everytime I think I failed on something his smile tells me that at least I did something right.
    Don’t Call Me Fashion Blogger

    1. Oh good to hear that Francesca! Wonderful! I’ve to adopt the same mentality with my son and stop beating myself up sometimes.
      Thanks much for the inspiration and contribution.

  13. I think besides good quality skin care products, drinking enough of water and getting enough of sleep contribute to healthy and beautiful skin.

    1. You’re so right about that Nancy. Thanks much for sharing.

  14. Self care or self love is simply loving myself and finding worth in myself even if the world does not. God made me & he doesn’t make things wrong. I have found that I have had to have faith in that. That God doesn’t make mistakes – especially with us. The world makes us think we need to have all these material things to be worthy of love or to be loved But, it’s not true. God has already told us so through Jesus. And taking care of ourselves whether it’s through a bath or buying a nice dress or seeing a movie we like, shouldn’t be dismissed because others say it’s shallow. Anything you enjoy doing and love doing, that make one happy is self care and worth taking the time to do. I love a great bath, it relaxes me and it’s my thinking spot. I put music on and chill. I also love art & find peace in it!! x

    1. You couldn’t have put it any better dear friend. Great point and true that! Good to hear that.
      Thanks so much for the contribution to this subject. Appreciate and love ya! 🙂

  15. Self care is so important Missy! I love that you take time for yourself. My prayer time is where I try to let go and be with God. I usually have a delicious snack and tea which makes is extra special.


    1. Good to hear that Kathrine. I do that as well, but not as much as I should. Gotta change that!
      Thanks much for the contribution.

  16. Self love and self care is extremely important! Wonderful post dear <3
    Beauty and Fashion Freaks

  17. This post is so important! Our moods affect everyone in our lives – this is such a great reminder to take care of ourself so we can care for others. Champagne in the bathtub sounds ideal!

    xx http://www.qustomquinns.com/blog

    1. You’re so right Quinn. Thanks much for the contribution to this subject. 🙂

  18. great post hun!
    kisses from the sandpits of dubai ❤︎

  19. This is such a nice positive post. I agree that we all need to take time for ourselves to properly feel fully positive, and having a bath and chilling is definitely my favourite way to do that. Great post x
    Natasha | https://floralsandcoralsx.blogspot.com x

    1. Thank you Natasha! Good to hear that. Awesome!! 🙂

  20. For me it’s definitely eating healthy. That’s when I feel my best and look my best. It can be hard with a busy schedule, but I always try to eat well and go to the gym.

    -Emily http://www.coatandcoffee.com

    1. It is very important and good to hear that you do that. I sure need to try hard here.
      Thanks much for the reminder and contribution. 🙂

  21. jenniferpickering22gmailcom

    Self love means taking care of yourself first! And not being hard on yourself!

    Effortlessly Sophisticated

    1. Agreed Jennifer! Thanks for joining in the conversation.

  22. In my eyes self care is something that you enjoy/ makes you feel good and is relaxing. Whether that’s a spa day or just relaxing with a face mask and Netflix! It doesn’t have to cost a fortune for sure x


    1. Couldn’t agree more Sophie. Thanks much for the contribution.

  23. There’s so much I like about this post. Sometimes I feel good spoiling myself. But my husband and I started doing something a long time ago, and I try to stick to this outlook as often as possible: We focus on the experiences in life rather than the stuff. Valentine’s Day, birthdays, anniversaries. We get each other gifts if/when we find something the other person will REALLY love/need, but otherwise, we give each other experiences – dates at amazing restaurants, romantic getaways, spa treatments, etc. We focus on each other. And that’s just within that one relationship. When I apply this to my self care, and to my friends, it really makes a big difference in my expectations, my outlook, and my happiness. I don’t have a lot of stuff figured out, but I feel like when things are going crazy and I’m stressed, taking some me time and giving myself a good experience (a spa trip, a beach day, etc), I’m happier for it. Such a good post!!

    1. Aw Amy so good to hear that. I so love you and your husband’s mantra. I agree and definitely something I’ll be living by as well. Good memories can’t be taken away, but materialistic things can. Thanks so much for sharing this with me. Appreciated much! 🙂

  24. Totally agree!
    I have my daily self care moment and I try to find time for it everyday, itcould be my morning running, my mani-pedicure or my “facial mask and magazines moment”: maybe it could sound like a work, but it really make me feel better after! 🙂

    1. Good to hear that Silvia.
      That sounds wonderful and worth it. Thanks much for the contribution. 🙂

  25. I’m all about bubble baths! THEY MAKE ME FEEL real good!!!
    xoBeckerman Girls


    1. Good to hear that girls. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  26. I think self love or self care, can mean you take care of yourself. For the name of health and life. I also think it can be doing something simple, like relaxing or pampering yourself. I just recently purchased a gorgeous Mulberry black patent bayswater and I just love it. 🙂 http://www.bauchlefashion.com/2018/07/sale-alert-few-moda-wishlist-fall-look.html

    1. Couldn’t agree more Heather. Good to hear that you treated yourself. You deserve it! 🙂 Thanks much for joining in the topic.

  27. Such a great post.. self love and self care are usually one of the last things on my mind but over the past few years I am trying to to carve out a little time for me as well.


    1. Good to read that you carving out time for yourself. Thank you for joining in.

  28. Love this thought provoking post! Couldn’t agree more with you and I’m all for a bit of relaxing to hope with your wellbeing xx


    1. Thank you Dominique and good to hear that.

  29. Such a poignant and beautiful post gorgeous girl! You totally hit the nail on the head that self-care and self-love are on the inside; emotional and spiritual, I couldn’t agree more. I used to think buying new clothes was the be all and end all when I was working in a number of happy jobs, but in the end I was horribly unhappy on the inside which led to toxic relationships and lots of unchecked hate and anger. Now I can’t afford to buy as many clothes as I could in the past whilst working in those jobs, but I’m so much happier underneath the surface and have learnt that having material possessions doesn’t make your soul happy.

    Self-care and self-love usually mean moments like having a quiet cup of tea in the garden, reading a few chapters of a novel or indulging in a soothing face mask and hot bath (not in this heat though hehe!) I love all of the blissful products you use as your routine when your son goes to bed; so many stunning things! The pure clay detox wash looks gorgeous. I’m so glad you’re taking time to nourish yourself spiritually and emotionally as you deserve all the happiness life has to offer beautiful! <3

    Sophie | soinspo xo

    1. Heyyyy girlll…good to read something from you. I concur with what you’ve written here. I’ve been there and still working on it. Living a minimalistic lifestyle is definitely the new happiness.
      Nice to read about your self-care and self-love routine. Love that!! Its all about the simple things, isn’t it? The pure clay is really good.
      Thanks ever so much for your meaningful contribution. You also deserve all the happiness life has to offer Sophie. Much love!!

  30. I think it means having respect for yourself, the way you would have respect for someone you greatly admire.

    Allie of ALLIENYC

    1. You’re right Allie. Thanks much for the contribution.

  31. Love this! To me, self care is taking the time to do things that fill YOUR bucket, rather than constantly trying to do it all for everyone else. Especially as a teacher (and I know you’ll get this!) it’s so important for me to leave work at a reasonable time, take the time to work out because that’s what de-stresses me, and go to bed early. This means I’ll be a better, more patient teacher for my kiddos and happier with myself. Self care is so important! Thanks for the reminder :).

    Susie | http://milehighdreamers.com

    1. Good to hear that Susie. Definitely agree with you. Thanks much for the meaningful contribution. 🙂

  32. Self-care sometimes mean reading an inspirational book. I like to read about people who have overcome hardship in life. You made some good points here, sis. Thanks for sharing!

    1. Oh yeah most definitely sis. I do that sometimes too. Thank you for the contribution. 🙂

  33. I completely agree about self-care being more about caring for the internal than the external. There are things that bring momentary happiness, but it’s often fleeting. While caring for the internal things, makes a more lasting change.

    Kathrin | Polar Bear Style

    1. Good to hear that Kathrin and you’re so right about that. Thanks much for the contribution.

  34. I totally agree, i think for me just having time to literally do nothing is rewarding

    1. Oh yeah most definitely! Thanks for sharing.

  35. Self care to me is getting my nails done, having a nice bath, doing everything that I enjoy and mostly being present while doing these things.


    1. Good to hear that Radi. Thank you for sharing.

  36. Hello miss
    My body is sick but my head is not and what I feel inside of me helps me to overcome this bad moment of my life. I hear my inner voice and I began to take care of myself more than the others because these others were a great disappointment.

    Lots of love


    1. Hello Marisa,
      Hope you get better. Good to hear that you’re taking care of you.
      Thanks for sharing. Lots of love back!

  37. Kudos to you, dear Missy May, you learn more self care and love! I think each of us is the most important person in the own life and therefore, we always should be on the first place!
    xx from Bavaria/Germany, Rena

    1. Thanks much Rena and yes to us being in the first place.
      Alles Liebe!

  38. I love this post! Self care is so important! I’m also learning to relax more so I can really clear my mind and get rid of the negative thoughts. Oh and I also try to stop being so hard on myself too. Hope you are having an amazing week babe!

    Vivian x


    1. Good to hear that Vivian. Wonderful! The week has been okay and hope yours too.
      Thanks much for the contribution dear.

  39. I am so bad at relaxing- I always feel like there is SOMETHING I should be doing, some task that I should be working on. Inbox Zero (or To-Do List Zero) is realllll.

    I love this post, though- reminds me I need to work on self-care!

    Le Stylo Rouge

    1. I can understand that Ashley. Most of us are there, but we can’t live our lives working all the time. Ha!!
      Good to hear that. Thank you for contribution.

  40. Such a great post! Glad you are taking some time to relax and self care.
    Gemma x

  41. Sounds really interesting) Thanks a lot for sharing!

  42. Sounds really interesting) Thanks a lot for sharing!

  43. Great post… self love is really important!
    Kisses, Paola.


  44. I love these black n white photos. As much as I practice self love, my self care regime is not consistent. I love to pamper myself after my shower and I take care of moisturizing all my body parts. When I want to purchase something for me, myself & I, and its affordable I get it. If not, hello layaway.

    1. Good to hear that sis. Mine is not consistent, but what matters is that we do it often through little things like you’ve mentioned.
      Wonderful! Thanks much for the contribution on this subject. Appreciate ya!

  45. What a wonderful text more people should read ❤ congratulations ❤
    kisses ❤

  46. Como personas que somos necesitamos tener ese ratito de estar por nosotros, de mimarnos, de darnos un capricho… es necesario para que nuestro interior esté en armonía y nos sintamos bien.


  47. Such a great thoughtful post! Couldn’t agree more! Self love being more about caring, relaxing, it could be through anything, like we find happiness in any small things, where we found ourselves pampered, be it a spa day, or a dine out wearing the best dress!

    Love this thought!

    Xoxo Babita


    1. Good to hear that Babita. You couldn’t have said it any better. Truth!
      Thanks much for the contribution to this topic. 🙂

  48. mama needs these products to pamper her body too. The thing is sometimes, just taking a warm better can make you feel so good.
    Wonder Cottage

    1. Ha!! True that! Thank you 🙂

  49. This is a really good and thought-provoking post. It’s amazing what a difference genuine self-care can have on our lives; it allows us to take a step back and approach situations more calmly, I find 🙂 Hope you’re having a lovely week so far!

    aglassofice.com x

    1. Thank you Gabrielle and couldn’t agree more with you. The week is going well by the grace of God. Thanks and hope yours too. 🙂

  50. Self love is absolutely so important! You need to love yourself before anyone else and not neglect your needs! https://mariannyc.com/2018/07/16/nyc-garment-district/

    1. Couldn’t agree more Mariann. Thanks much for the contribution.

  51. This is such a wonderful post! I definitely agree it is so important to practice self care! Thanks for sharing!


  52. Self care and self love as you say is very important. And I agree so much on that! In fact I value these and I try to do this as often as I can because our body, mind, and soul. Which I believe a lot of people should too.

    Love, Fads | The Ästron

    1. Good to hear that. Wonderful!! Thank you for the contribution.

  53. One thing I love about self love and care is that it means something different to everyone – it could be going for a walk or painting anything 🙂 I really love that aspect around it! Great post!


    1. Oh yeah couldn’t agree more. Good to hear that beautiful and thanks for the contribution. 🙂

  54. Whilst I don’t have a routine, I definitely have those moments where I think – and feel v. guilty about – I haven’t done anything for myself in a while, maybe I deserve that jacket from Zara… I’m trying to take more moments of calm for myself, it can be so easy to forget sometimes!

    //teandtwosugars.blogspot.com xx

    1. Girl you deserve that Zara jacket and a good time for yourself sometimes. -But yeah it can be easy to forget indeed.
      Thank you for the contribution Georgia. 🙂

  55. For me self care is all the little things that you do for yourself. It is so important to me that I take some time just to relax ones in a while. Thank you for this amazing post. It really got me thinking!


    1. Oh good to hear that Freja dear. It is always a good idea to relax. Thank you for adding to the topic.

  56. Thanks for the interesting post! Have a nice weekend)

  57. I really loved this post. With all the bills that have to be taken care off , i often forget to buy myself something. Girl. get that screen. I love big screens too. There is nothing as cool as watching from a big screen with pop corns and a blanket:)

    1. Good to hear that. Girl we all have bills, but sometimes we gotta put something aside for us. Amma get that screen for sure.
      Thank you for adding to the subject. 🙂

  58. I totally agree with you, Self love & self care is important! Amazing post, xx
    Barnes and Noble Coupons

    1. Thank you and good to hear that.

  59. I agree, self-care should be focused on the spiritual and emotional side first. I guess that should be addressed first than the material things but I have to admit sometimes these areas take longer to gratify compare to physical needs. I guess balanced should be the case. Yes, I just got a new Burberry boots thinking that I deserved to have one but maybe I was wrong too haha. I don’t know anymore, I promise myself not to look at online shopping for a long time after that purchase. Thanks dear for sharing and have a fun weekend.


    1. Good to hear that. I agree with you. Its all about balance indeed. Haha….the guilt after buying something a little on the pricey side is real.
      Thank you for the contribution. Appreciated and have a blessed week ahead.

  60. I know self-care is a real buzzword of 2018 but it’s so incredibly important! After a busy day at work, I like to take the time to unwind and get lost in a book – usually with something chocolatey I’ll admit! It’s always my favourite time of the day.

    Musings & More

    1. It is indeed and good to hear about your routine. Thanks much for adding to the topic.

  61. This is a great topic!! I was just like that before, trying to buy a lot of stuff because “I deserved them” but I was feeling empty and miserable on the inside. Now that I have started to focus more on the inside, on feeling well, on doing things that make me happy, I feel like I don’t really need that much stuff or material things.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts !

    Have a lovely weekend!


    Seize your Style

    1. Oh good to hear that Andrea. This is definitely a lesson I’ve learnt too. Thanks much for adding your two cent to the topic. Appreciated! 🙂

  62. This is such a fascinating and thought provoking post to read – self-care and self-love really is vital and I feel like I maybe forget to take care of myself sometimes. Thanks for this positive reminder and some beautiful photos too!

    Heather xoxo

    1. Good to hear that Heather and thank you very much for the contribution. 🙂

  63. Your self care routine sounds lovely! I agree, I try do as much housework during the day as possible so that in the evenings when the boys sleep I can relax and do something I want to do 🙂

    Hope that you are having a wonderful weekend! We had a busy day yesterday so a more relaxing day today is planned 🙂

    Away From The Blue Blog

    1. I do the same too. Good to hear that. The weekend has been good. Yes to relaxing day.
      Thanks much for the contribution beautiful. 🙂

  64. Great thoughts. True, a designer bag definitely feel loved but only for the mean time.

    Joy to the World

  65. I actually started my blog to self care and have me time. I love doing the blog, learning new things, reading other blogger posts. Every time I feel upset or angry doing my blog helps me to relax and move on. xx

    Much love,
    Elegant Duchess

    1. Oh good to hear that duchess! Wonderful! Thanks much for sharing. Much love! 🙂

  66. What a wonderful post! I love how you highlighted the spiritual and the emotional part of our being as worth paying attention to. In reality, that is the most important thing to take care of. Being mindful of our mental health and emotions is so important because that is what influences us the most.

    Still, body and mind are interconnected and so is the soul. Sometimes taking the time to pamper our body is good for our soul as well. Self -love and self-care come in many different shapes and forms. For someone it can be taking the time to watch a good film, for someone else it might mean taking the time to play a came of basketball. It all depends on what we need at the moment.

    This is a great topic. I read the comments and I loved what someone said- that self-love is focusing on what we need to do for ourselves, what is important for us. It is not about what matters to others, it is about what is best for us. In other words, it’s very individual.

    1. Good to hear that you agree Ivana and definitely agree with you too. There were so many valuable comments. Love!
      Thanks so much for the meaningful contribution too. 🙂

  67. I was just smiling to myself reading this.. it’s so core to our human nature to find that precious time in which to be selfish enough to invest in ourselves! Not just in the material aspect (which is not bad in itself) but more importantly in wholeness of ourselves! It’s so easy to make excuses on why you have to postpone that “me-time” but it’s quite essential for a healthy life! Nice read! Love it

    1. Good to hear that Lily. 🙂 I so agree with you here. Thanks ever so much for the contribution. Awesome!

  68. So good that you brought self care up sis! It’s an area that I try hard to work on. Sometimes I get so busy with life, mom things, friends, family that I end up feeling so exhausted. As far as self care goes I love to go to the beach, takes pictures beautiful views, read a good book, go somewhere I’ve been wanting to explore for a while, and shopping for something I’ve wanted for a while. Although I’m currently on a shopping diet, hehe. Your pics are awesome sis!!


    1. Good to hear that sis. I can definitely relate to you as a mother. We say that always, but we end up shopping anyways. Ha!!
      Thanks much for the contribution beautiful. 🙂

  69. This is such a great post, my beautiful Mavis! With so many things competing for your time, sometimes it’s nice to take a step back and just breathe. Self care is important. I call it “me time.” Sometimes, I just need a few minutes and sometimes I need an entire weekend! Lol. I’m glad to see you’re taking time for yourself and you are so worthy and so wonderful! Never forget that. 🙂 You are an inspiration to all of us!


    1. Aw thanks much my beautiful Lizzy. Yes to me time! Sometimes I do too for sure. Good to hear that and appreciate ya. 🙂

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